Resources

Books

On socialization/conditioning, separating what happened to you from who you are, fear vs love, and self-love

The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All- Cheri Huber

There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate- Cheri Huber

When You’re Falling, Dive: Acceptance, Freedom and Possibility- Cheri Huber

On socialization of norms around love and romance, feeling like you have a void, feeling unloved, and self-love

Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery- Cheri Huber

Being One: Finding Our Self in Relationship- Steven Harrison*

Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart- John Welwood*

*These two books have some nuanced homophobia, sexism, and classism scattered through a couple of chapters. I take a take what you need, leave what you don’t approach to these books. There is a lot more wisdom than isms in them. But use your judgment.