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Lessons on Lemonade: Why Are You Afraid of Love?

My essay on inter-generational trauma, emotional labor and femininity/masculinity, and other themes that came up for me after watching Beyoncé’s Lemonade, went live on The Establishment yesterday. This is my first paid piece and I’m very proud of it 😉 … Continue reading

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Here are 8 People’s Stories About Coming Out to Their Grandandparents (Slate article)

I almost forgot! I’m featured in this short, heartwarming piece about coming out to grandparents! https://www.slantnews.com/story/2015-07-02-here-are-8-peoples-stories-about-coming-out-to-their-grandparents

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The Width of Becoming (Learning How to Love The Shape of My Face)

I’ve been told so many lies about the cut of my face, I’ve tried to cut it clean off. I’ve tried to shape it into something else. I think the thing about masculinity in women, is that it’s wildly beautiful. I think it’s breath-taking and I’ve gasped at the scent of it. But when you are named that way, without identifying that way, it is cold and sharp. It hurts your face and stabs your good side. I think that I am old enough and wise enough now, to know the shape of my own face. I think I know how to trace my own heart. And I think the outline is beautiful. Continue reading

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The Color of Rage

When we attach colors to emotions, we usually associate anger with red and calmness with blue. But in my household growing up, anger was black. As an adult, I have written a lot about the confusion of being received as … Continue reading

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Sorry I returned Your Greeting (Re: Street Harassment)

If this had been a poem it would’ve said: Feels like Pulling my hair out Screaming and nothing coming out Being surrounded by people, while feeling truly alone in the claustrophobia of my own thoughts… I wanted to write the … Continue reading

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